Controlling the Controllable

Happy Wednesday!  What a beautiful day to be alive!

Today I want to share with you guys one of my biggest tips to relieving stress and living in the moment: CONTROLLING THE CONTROLLABE.  Basically, only worry about things YOU have control over.  It is pointless to worry about things you can't control because you are raising your stress levels for something you can't do anything about.  We spend so much time worrying about other people and what they are doing, coming up with hypothetical situations in our heads about what might happen, and letting them affect how we act and feel.

The ONE thing we can control is ourselves.  In having control of ourselves we have control over our thoughts and actions.  We can control our attitude...What is your attitude when something negative happens?  No matter the circumstance you always have a choice on what your attitude is.  Having a positive attitude will lead you to growth and success. 

We have control over our response to any situation.  Think back to a time when something bad happened to you.  How did you choose to respond?  Did you let something little make you really angry and upset?  Did you let someone else affect how you were feeling?  As much as we don't like to admit it, no one else can affect how we feel and our response to everything that happens in our lives.  When we choose to have a good response to situations we will be able to have a better outcome.

You have control over what you do.  You have control over how hard you work.  How hard you work will have a direct connection to what your outcome is.  The harder you work the better outcome.  It's that simple.  If you want something, work for it.  

Set goals that revolve around things you control.  When you set goals that you don't have direct control over you will feel defeated when you don't reach them and they will cause you to stress more BECAUSE YOU CAN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT THEM.  If you want to lower your stress and be successful then only focus on things YOU can do.

Things you can control:

  • your effort
  • your preparation
  • your fitness
  • your nutrition
  • your sleep
  • your body language
  • your reaction

Things you can't control:

  • the weather
  • what your spouse does
  • the opposing team
  • when you are given a test/quiz
  • other peoples actions
  • if your flight is delayed
  • someone cutting you off
  • the list goes on and on!!!

The power of letting go of things you can't control is HUGE!  You will be setting yourself free.  If you can't control it, what is the point of worrying about it??

Thanks for stopping by!

XO, Kenz

Why Do You Workout?


Would you still exercise even if if didn't affect how you look???  I know this is a weird question to ask, but really think about it!  Is the main reason you exercise to look good?  That's not a bad thing, but there are so many other benefits of exercising that have nothing to do with appearance.

For me, the biggest reason I exercise is because it is an emotional outlet.  Whether I am mad, sad, angry, depressed or whatever it may be I know that when I walk out of the gym I am going to feel 100 times better than I did when I walked in.  I use my workout to get out all of that stress or anger or sadness.  I use it as fuel to work hard and let my emotions out.  Exercising is an escape for me.  I leave all of my worries and struggles at the door.  When I walk into the gym I know that my problems temporarily go away.  I can focus on having a good workout and when I leave my mind is in a much better place.  I can more easily make good decisions rather than saying or doing something rash.

Exercising makes me feel strong and empowered.  I am doing things in the gym that I never thought I would be able to do!  When I walk out of the gym after crushing a tough workout I feel SO GOOD.  There is no better feeling than doing something you thought you couldn't do.  I love setting goals and pushing myself to achieve them.  I love feeling strong.  When I feel strong I feel like I can conquer the rest of the day no matter what comes my way.  Exercising makes me feel like I can do anything I set my mind to (in AND out of the gym).

When I exercise I am more productive throughout the day and make better choices.  Exercising gives me the energy (physically and emotionally) to get things done.  I don't get as much done on days I don't work out.  That's it.  Period.  I know that if I exercise (even on a busy day) I will be able to get more done.  I am also able to make better lifestyle choices (whether it's food, activities, etc.) when I workout.  When I workout I feel good.  And when I feel good I am more willing to do other things that will help me to keep feeling good.  Whereas if I don't make it to the gym I feel sluggish and I am more likely to do things that make me feel more sluggish.

I am happier.  No explanation needed.  I am a happier person when I exercise.

Exercising is my time to focus on me and better myself.  With work, church, family, the gym is my time for me.  It's time for me to focus on myself and put myself first.  When it comes to bettering  yourself you CAN be selfish.  Because the more time you spend becoming a better person the more you are going to be able to help other people.  But if you want to help other people, you first have to help yourself.  And for me, working out is where I feel like I am bettering myself the most.

Why do you workout???

I encourage you to think about the reasons you workout.  Looks are great don't get me wrong. But they aren't everything.  Find a reason to workout that is not just about physical looks. Once your find your "why" you will be able to use it to your advantage and stay disciplined even on days you aren't motivated.

Thanks for stopping by!

XO, Kenz